"Dr. Selznick's book, Beyond the Power Struggle, speaks to parents in down-to-earth terms regarding the challenges they face with their children. Recognizing that children's issues are not easily solved, Dr. Selznick offers a hand-holding manuscript for parents. The book is an important tool for parents. In our household, the model turning conversations into a “choice” was very successful. My wife and I adapted our language from a behavior-repercussion framework to putting the choices in front of our five-year-old son and then putting the ball in his court. I think this gave him a feeling of control that made him much easier to deal with and to behave better." -- Anthony Mazzarelli, MD, JD, MBE, Co-President/Chief Executive Officer Cooper University Health Care
"Love it! You have a wonderful way of speaking to parents ― theory but from the heart. Your ideas are solid, wise, practical, and sound. I kept smiling - clone yourself. You’re the psychologist every parent (and child) should go to. Empathy! Humor!! And great advice. Adored your The PPSA (Proactive-Preventive-Strategic Approach) and your 10 steps. Put them on a poster!" -- Michele Borba, Ed.D, Author of Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine
"Dr. Selznick does it again! If you've read his blogs, you probably know his style, but this book is a wonderful commentary on parenting across the ages as much as it is a "how to" and "how not to" book about parenting. Using fun phrases like "meltydowny," "The Hey Bud" parenting style, and "Frustration Intolerance Disorder (FID)," Dr. Selznick has a conversation with the reader about the role of anger, the need for kids to seek pleasure, the real deal about self-esteem in kids, and the skill of parenting. Ending with a fabulous discussion of reactive vs. strategic parenting and the 10 rules of parenting, Dr. Selznick uses a series of anecdotes that will have you smiling and frowning (depending on how much you see yourself or your child in his stories). A quick and effective read, this book is highly recommended!" -- Dr. Sarah Levin Allen, Pediatric Neuropsychologist and Author of "Raising Brains"
"What started as a journey to help Nicholas better develop social and coping skills, you helped develop a relationship with my son and also helped guide me to recognize what I needed to do to best support Nicholas and, in the end, helped me too! Your book was a great reinforcement for us." -- Nicole Leidmer, Mother of 10-year-old boy
"Beforehand, our son’s oppositional attitude had our heads spinning. Dr. Selznick's advice and his book gave us clear and actionable techniques that have greatly improved our child’s behavior.: -- Justin and Jackie, Parents of a 5-year-old-boy
"What started as a journey to help Nicholas better develop social and coping skills, you helped develop into a relationship with my son and also helped guide me to recognize what I needed to do to best support Nicholas and in the end, helped me too! Your book was a great reinforcement for us." -- Nicole Leidmer, Mother of 10-year-old boy