A collective memoir that explores a womans journey to understand the complexities of her adult brothers symptoms of Autism Spectrum Disorder. As a child, Claires big brother Ray was bright and inquisitive, but as the two became teenagers, Ray struggled to acquire the social skills that came more easily to others. Claire tried to help, pointing out what he should or shouldnt have said or done. Ray insisted that he wasnt the problem -- On my planet
he would explain, there were no social climbers, no subtle hints or subliminal messages to miss, and the telling of little white lies would be a capital offence. At sixteen, sitting with him in the high school cafeteria, Claire vowed to find Rays planet. After graduation, Ray took a job as a letter carrier with Canada Post, but after thirty-three years on the job he was fired, blew his appeal, and spiralled into a suicidal depression. Claire didnt know he was in trouble until he reached out to her by email. Thus began a remarkable written correspondence that pulled back the curtain on an inner life Claire couldnt have imagined. Where in-person interactions plunged him into hot water, Rays writing revealed a compassionate, funny, sad man who showed extraordinary insight into his way of navigating the world. Ray was fifty when Claire realized he might have Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), but by then, having survived without a diagnosis his whole life, Ray was reluctant to have a label pinned on him and resisted Claires efforts to fix him by trying, in all sincerity, to make him more like her. Dispatches from Rays Planet draws on Ray and Claires correspondence to tell the story of two siblings from two very different planets. There are thousands of Rays in our world. In this collective memoir, Claire and Ray share their journey with the hope that others can also learn that we all perceive the world in different ways, and that different does not necessarily mean wrong.
"After a twenty-five-year career as a jewellery designer, running a business and raising a family, Claire Finlayson now writes full time. She has always been an essay writer, and occasionally a journalist, but her passion is creative non-fiction. Dispatches from Rays Planet, seven years in the making, is Finlaysons first book, written under the mentorship of Betty Keller. Finlayson lives in Gibsons, BC, and currently serves as vice president on the board of directors of the Sunshine Coast Festival of the Written Arts, Canadas longest-running literary event celebrating Canadian writers."
"Ray [learned he was] on the autism spectrum later in life. For years he held a job as a letter carrier for Canada Post, until painful foot problems made it impossible to walk his route. Today he tutors kids in math. Writing about his thoughts and feelings has always been easier than speaking. There is still a big gulf between him and the neurotypical world.
I love Rays quote about mathWhen you prove a theorem by yourself, you stand as an equal with the first person to have proven it. Pythagoras and I are brothers. The truths of math are absolutely true; they are not subject to dispute or interpretation or revision. In a world of noise and pointless going around in circles, math gives us clarity and certainty. [Dispatches from Rays Planet] describes Rays struggles with a world that is not logical and clear like math. Temple Grandin, author, Thinking in Pictures"