A patient wishes for more appreciation from her doctor. A client in a counseling center complains about a lack of self-respect. What does that actually mean? Sophus and Daniela Renger explore on a scientific basis how terms such as appreciation or respect on the one hand and self-respect, self-love and self-esteem on the other hand can be distinguished. In a differentiated model, they describe how much our self-perception is dependent on the recognition of others and what that means for successful cooperation and an appreciative approach to oneself. In a practical way, they explain where (self-)respect can be found and strengthened in one's own life, in education, therapy and counseling, in the world of work, in politics and society.